Is your temper holding you back?
Are you struggling with high-pressure situations or a stressful environment? Are you finding you are having problems in progressing your career? Are you finding yourself in arguments more frequently? Are you noticing you're angrier in your relationship?
What is Anger?
Anger is an emotion we've all felt at some stage - it helps us stand up for ourselves when we become scared and when there is a danger to our physical safety. It can be a fight or flight natural response.
When anger becomes an issue, it’s when we constantly feel this emotion, or when it starts to negatively impact our lives or the lives of those around us. This could look like missed pay rises or promotions at work, being stood down, comments on your responses from your friends or loved ones, or being excluded from social gatherings.
What does an unhealthy temper look like?
It’s common that we don't realise that our anger has become an issue until it has been pointed out by others.
Anger is often the emotional result of the issue that we are dealing with. If you’re under a high level of stress, it’s understandable that anger could be the result of this situation. When we experience elevated stress, our body is in a state of flight or fight. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, tired, rundown or stressed out it's likely an anger issue can arise.
An unhealthy level of anger can look like this:
- Overreacting to what others say or do/difficulty calming down
- Seeing red with a partner, friend, workmate, or stranger
- Relationship problems and breakups
- Viewing other people’s actions, intentions, or motivations negatively
- Appearing to others or yourself as being constantly negative or stressed
- Anxious, tense, stressed, and wound-up
- Verbally or physically acting out.
How I can help:
I can help when anger gets transferred into behaviour that is problematic for your future progression or when it affects others.
When you are angry you may feel like you are being controlled by your emotions and losing control of what you say and do. You might get angry at a person (partner or colleague at work), at a situation (traffic going slow), or sitting on stress or worry about a personal concern.
But together, we will help you control and understand your anger. I will assist you to have effective and safe/respectful communication both at home and at work.
You may choose to have a quick anger management fix or longer therapy resolving the core issues of where the anger comes from.
I am one of the most qualified and experienced anger management counsellors in the South Island.
I was selected to participate in a National Hui of experienced anger management counsellors to share what is effective in helping people to change their behaviour when they are angry. I have worked successfully with children, adolescents, and adults since 1999 in managing people’s anger and conflicts.
My approaches are evidence-based therapy and counselling methods for anger. I work with the current, most effective and efficient ways for managing anger that is affecting marriages, relationships, and work places.
Together we can learn to manage your anger so it is an asset rather than a relationship and career liability.
Treatment & Counselling For Anger in Christchurch
If any of the above anger experiences sound like you, then counselling is your best way forward. Counselling or “talk therapy” is often used to learn how to manage anger and use tools to control this emotion before it becomes out of hand.
Depending on its severity treatment can take a few weeks or more. Generally, significant improvement can be made within 3 to 10 sessions. Above all, it is important to treat every dimension of your life to promote positive mental health in the long-term.
Winchester Counselling practices therapy with strengths-based, client-oriented methods that help to build a strong foundation in all parts of the person’s life to help with managing anger. Since 1999, Andrew Winchester has been assisting people with anger management and counselling in Christchurch.
“Very helpful, I feel a lot better about my work and relationships and am much happier in my life.” - anon client